Friday, August 6, 2010


The current trend in entertainment and advertising is to emasculate men.  It is to show men as weak-minded, immature buffoons.  It is to show that men need to have a feminine side.  Society has taken its cue in imitating that trend and I dare say it is even infiltrated the church.  Women, in large part, are leading the men.  Even I am guilty of making the joke about "let me ask the boss" when referring to my wife.  Yes its in jest, but it sets the wrong example. God has ordained man to be the leader in the home. 
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 NKJV
That is very plain and simple.  It is not wives submit as long as you like what he has to say. It is not wives submit as long as you think your husband is making smart decisions or even if your husband is making foolish ones.  It is not wives submit as long as she agrees.  It is simply "wives submit." And submit in what? Submit in everything.  The only authority over your husband is God and it is only when his leadership is contrary to God's law can you not submit.

That is God's model for the family.  That is who God created you to be.   That is where you will find your happiness.  And if your husband is not following the Lord, that is how you will win him.
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 1 Peter 3:1-2.
I have heard many wrong things. I have seen wives yell at and chastise their husbands right in front of their children.  I have seen wives even threaten to withhold relations if the husband does something she agrees with. That is a violation of God's Word.
Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.1 Corinthians 7:3-5.  NKJV
If you want a happy marriage then you need to do your part and submit to your husbands leadership. Anything else, is not God's will.  Only this will lead to a Godly family.  How precious it is to be a good wife.
Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10 NKJV

1 comment:

  1. Ben you are not shying away for the tough topics. Great job again! Women please guard against putting your husbands down, we want them to lead.Pray for your spouse, not only when they struggle but when they are doing great also.