Thursday, May 31, 2012

The Crumbling Fascade of Teen Idols


I know I have harped on this subject before, but parents really need to be very careful in what role models they allow for their child.  I see so many children with unhealthy obsessions with certain pop stars.  Parents still buy the music from questionable artists or watch television shows with questionable themes or stars all to the detriment of their children.  Some parents allow their children to play violent and inappropriate video games.  Perhaps it is easier to be a friend than a parent, but that is not what any parent is called to do. 
And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.  Ephesians 6:4 NKJV
Parents, I can not emphasize enough the fact that just because someone is promoted or even claims to be a Christian, that this person is a good role model (or even a Christian).  You have to understand that celebrities are not projections of who they are, but they are carefully crafted and promoted by the entertainment industry.  They are promoted as wholesome or Christian because that is the market the want to reach.  It really has little or nothing to do with what they really believe.  I am not saying that they are not Christian.  There are many solid Christians even in entertainment.  However, that list does not include some formerly popular ones like Miley Cyrus or current popular ones like Justin Bieber.  I can not tell you hearts, but I can tell you their actions and what things they have said.  If you think that they are good influences for your children, then get ready to be a grandparent much sooner than you would like. 

First let us look at a star who has faded.  There was a time when Miley Cyrus ruled the children's entertainment world.  Many young girls were lured to her television show and many parents were comforted by handlers cleverly marketing her as a wholesome all-American chaste young girl.  Even though the videos of her dirty dancing with older men, the time she said she liked to get high, or having her underwear model boyfriend live with her (and her parents), she was still held up as some kind of role model.  Parents put their heads in the sand and allowed their children to be influenced by a promiscuous want-to-be pole dancer.  Even though she is all but washed up because no one really cares to see an untalented former-child star turned want-to-be sex symbol, she still has some advice for parents.  She says that parents should share with their children how "magical and cool" sex is.  I thought her carefully crafted persona said that sex was something that should wait until marriage?  Funny, I did not know she was married.  Then again, that is who your child's former role model really is. 

Now let us look at a start who still gets the tweener girls screaming.  Let's talk about Justin Bieber.  He does say that he is a Christian, so that means he is a good role model right?  I guess if you think pictures of him giving the finger to photographers is something you want your child to aspire to then I suppose it is just fine.  Then again maybe you want your tween daughter to share a hotel room with her boyfriend, because that is another thing that your daughter's role model does.  Then again, Mr. Bieber is legend in how poorly he treats others, including his own staff, so maybe your want your daughter to be disrespectful of elders, just like her role model.  Or maybe you want your daughter wanted for questioning for beating someone up, just like her role model?  At least Mr. Bieber will not convince your daughter into having premarital sex, right?  Well, there is the pesky interview in Rolling Stone magazine where he said that waiting should only last until you are "in love."  Considering there are millions of tween and teen girls who are "in love" with Justin Bieber, never mind, I do not even want to think about that.  Even if he was as wholesome as his handlers want you to think he is, is it healthy for anyone let alone a child to be that obsessed over one person?  Of course, such obsession never leads to looser morals in regards to sex right?  I guess only if you have your head in the sand.

Before I close, I want to mention video games.  Video games are not role models, I know, but it is just as important.  Just as girls get obsessed with characters, boys get obsessed with video games.  The kind of games I see young boys playing are appalling. They involve graphic violence, sex, foul language, death, and glorifying bad morals.  Apparently many parents think  that "Rated M" means "Rated My Child."  It is no wonder that oftentimes these children lose interest in everything else to where playing video games becomes all they want to do.  It is no wonder that their school work suffers.  It s no wonder they become disobedient and disrespectful.  At least it is no wonder to anyone who has eyes to see and does not have them buried in the sand wondering why their child is having such problems. 

The point I am making is to start being a parent and taking the time to do some research before getting sucked into false images created by entertainment companies.  They have zero interest in role modeling your child.  They only care about making money.  They are not mentoring ministries, they are businesses designed to make a profit.  When looking for a role model, look for the real deal.  Look for a pastor, a teacher, a youth leader, a family member, or someone who has a proven track record and solid testimony. Even better, look in the mirror.  You are your child's greatest role model.  Whatever you do, your child will mimic whether or not they want to.  Who of us does not have those moments when we realize that we just did something that we hated when our own parents did it?  I am sure all of us have because that influence affects us whether or not want to it to or whether or not admit it does.  Part of being a role model is turning things off that are bad influences and protecting your child from those same influences (on a side not, another reason why public school is not appropriate for a Christian child).  Be that role model.  Be who you want your child to grow up to be.  And, please, protect your child from role models who will only lead them into sin. 
Do not be deceived: "Evil company corrupts good habits."  1 Corinthians 15:33 NKJV

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